I posted this to John Shore’s blog, but thought I would preserve it:
Lessons from 26 years of marriage (to an awesome woman – who yesterday went and picked fresh blueberries and made me blueberry pie…yeah, she’s awesome):
1. Great relationships take hard work
2. Great relationships take compromise from both sides
3. The ability to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND the other person is probably the best glue to keep a great relationship great.
4. If your significant other is a nitwit before you get married, they will be a nitwit after you get married. Dump him/her and move on before you screw up your life.
5. The absolute worst person to try and have a great relationship with is a selfish person. Dump him/her BEFORE you get married and move on before you screw up your life.
6. It is VERY possible to turn a horrible relationship into a GREAT relationship, but takes commitment and effort from both people.
7. My wife is AWESOME, SWEET, FUN, and ADORABLE, and occasionally INCOMPREHENSIBLE.